How to communicate forgiveness without excusing hurtful behavior
How to communicate forgiveness without excusing hurtful behavior Events that cause our resentment often stay unspoken for a few reasons (as well as others): Fear of conflict Fear of the potential of conflict Not believing our value Fear of rejection We are afraid of the unknown and conflict is the ultimate unknown. Before conflict is […]
(RE)set your thoughts and actions to break the cycle of bitterness
(RE)set your thoughts and actions to break the cycle of bitterness What no one tells you about forgiveness, is that each time you feel ready, you’ll be given a *really good* reason why you don’t want to. There is not just one profound moment where you choose to forgive. It’s both choosing to forgive generally all that […]
Overcoming Bitterness & Choosing Forgiveness
Getting Started with Forgiveness If you’re ready to get started with forgiveness, then you know some of the hangups that you struggle to get momentum with. That’s really helpful information. We all get stuck in different places. In my own relationships, my feet sunk into the quicksand keeping me trapped in: Being afraid that if […]
Identifying & Navigating Sexual Triggers
Once you identify your triggers there can be a hyper-awareness phase that follows. In this phase, triggers can feel overwhelming with no easy ways of deescalating them. I have been in this exact situation many times where something from my past resurfaces. In that moment, my body is vibrating with anxiety, my mind unable to […]
Intimacy Substitutes I Fell For
Every single human on the planet desires intimacy. So what is true intimacy? And why is it so hard to feel? Because, friend, it’s loads more than just sex. In fact, sex can flat out lack intimacy.Intimacy is a closeness.Closeness can happen physically like cuddling or intercourse. Emotionally through vulnerability and storytelling. Intellectually through riveting conversation. And spiritually as […]
Sharing Your Trauma Triggers with Your Partner
My hunch is you’re here because you realized your past may be impacting your present. What happened to you wasn’t okay, it was a big deal and it matters. I don’t know why it happened. What I do know is…
Well… That Didn’t Go Well
When your hurt isn’t help with compassion, how do you lean into your relationship while processing the invalidation?
Help! I’m Afraid of Intimacy
I was single for 4 years after my daughter’s dad left to go to college when we were both 17. To say I had a fear of being left is an understatement. Not just being left, but being abandoned. For the first 4 years after her dad, I bounced between being content and being afraid […]
