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The More You Understand Your Emotions, The More Connection You Feel In Your Relationships.

Receive easily-applicable strategies so you can experience consistent closeness in your relationships.​

Go from Reactive to Present with this One Mindset Shift

You’re on the phone with a loved one and they say something that sends you into an immediate burst of emotion. 

🫣 Person A responds: In your eruption, you snap back. In self-protection, you become defensive. Your tone gets more angry, withdrawn or sarcastic. Your body warms up with anger, fear or shame. The call ends poorly and you can’t stop thinking about it.

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😤 Person B responds: In your eruption, you acknowledge the emotion for what it is, without judgment, just naming it. And then you take steps to become more in control again by taking deep breaths, getting off the phone, or releasing the emotion through physical body movements or crying. You decide what you need and do that thing.

❓ Which person are you?

I’m both. It depends on a lot of factors: sleep, emotional health, the particular trigger that was pressed and how hungry I am 😅

Since I have practiced emotional awareness, I have a greater ability to choose to respond like Person B more oftenSomeone needs to hear that being calm 100% of the time isn’t realistic, so it’s not the goal.

But what is the secret sauce for how to respond more like Person B? 

In the first scenario, it’s easy to forget what matters most while emotions run wild. Yet, there is one shift that allows you to move from escalated, triggered, or overcome by emotion, to seeing more choices in the moment and showing up more calmly more often.

More choices, more calmly, more often.

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Here it is:

Instead of: What do I need to do to change this? Or tell me what to do and I’ll do it. 

Try thinking this: Who do I want to be right now?

 

 

All logic exits when emotions overload your system. What remains is your character.

Developing and practicing who you want to be, makes this shift come more naturally when you need it because you’ve thought about this already outside of high-tension moments.

So now, when a situation with your kid, yourself, co-worker, partner or family member is not what you’re wanting, use this question to filter how you respond, “Who do I want to be right now”?

🎧 Listen in to the 5-Minute Meaningful Relationships clip and hear how to apply this tip in the moment!

 

But there’s more to it than one powerful shift. To bring greater awareness to what you’re feeling, you can learn to…

  • Have attunement to body sensations (tightness in chest, tingling in your shoulders, etc.)

  • Expand your vocabulary beyond your default feeling words

  • Communicate your experiences – even when you’re not sure what you’re feeling

Over the next few weeks, we’re going to all those places! We’ll explore the inseparable connection between emotions and relationships. You’ll learn new ways to know how and why you feel the way you do. Sign up here to follow along with easily-applicable strategies that take your relationships from “default response mode” ➡️ “devoted to the relationship”.

 

Because, the more you understand your emotions, the more connection you feel in your relationships.

 

Here’s what happens when you start to identify and express your emotions:

  • You know yourself more fully and can see new choices for how to respond in difficult situations.

  • By knowing your tender areas, you start to soften your heart for those around you.

  • And when compassion is renewed, you communicate differently.

When you can communicate emotions with clarity and kindness, you cultivate the closeness you desire through vulnerability.

Let’s go there together  👇🏽


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