How to Stop Overthinking & Rest In Your God-Given Confidence

Has someone ever told you, “you pick the music” or “you pick where to eat” and your mind immediately kicks into overdrive, wondering what they want and what they’ll think of you based on what you choose. A simple decision becomes overwhelming in a split second.

This is overthinking 🤔 Your mind struggles to shut off. It begs you to keep spiraling until you come up with the perfect, fail-proof plan that will keep you the most safe!

❤️ In Relationships: You probably have the gift of “reading the room”. You sense when emotions are off and you can calculate your next move to keep the peace or keep someone happy with you. At the same time, you’re overthinking what to say, how to act and what not to do.

✝️ With God: This pattern, like all of them, can’t be compartmentailzed. With God, you wonder if you heard from Him right, if you are interpreting what He told you correctly and spin trying to understand a God that can’t be understood. This can trigger feelings of uncertainty and lack of control, making God seem unsafe because He’s unfigureoutable.

🛡️ How it “protects” you (AKA, the fear behind why you’re stuck in this pattern): This protective behavior keeps you safe from feeling. Overthinking is underfeeling. You’re second-guessing your every move and word, trying to anticipate what’s will happen and how you can get ahead of it so you can avoid feeling something you don’t want to feel (ie. rejection, shame, lack of control, etc.). You think you can’t handle feeling that scary emotion – but you’re wrong. You’re actually super resilient!

🎯 What it actually keeps you from: You deny your intuition and rely on your mind to keep you from stumbling into risk. But your overthinking brain can’t distinguish the difference between “good risk” and “bad risk”, so it keeps you from ALL risk. This means you might not feel rejected by that friend by not opening up, but you also don’t give yourself the opportunity to deepen the friendship by taking a risk to open up either.

🙅🏽‍♀️How do I STOP?!: You break the cycle of overthinking by allowing your emotions to exist compassionately and by building your resilience to sit with these uncomfortable feelings so you can realize, I might not like it, but it won’t k!ll me either.

The first step in becoming a safe haven for your emotions is to reconnect back into yourself and the Lord so you can find clarity and make decisions with wisdom. When your thoughts begin to run wild, you can create steadiness through the pace of your body’s movements.

I do this through a simple somatic exercise that slows your thoughts to the rate of your activity. I guide you through this exercise inside my Facebook community if that sounds supportive to you.

In order to build emotional resilience long-term, you need to combine practical body-based techniques that reset your nervous system AND tear down misconceptions of God that keep you stuck in this same pattern of overthinking.

This is exactly what I teach inside REconnect, my 12-week course to take you from *doing* faith to experiencing God's life-changing grace.

Lies we believe about ourselves stem from something we think God thinks of us. When you accept the truth of how God really sees you, you start seeing yourself that way and surround yourself with people who see you the same way: loved, valuable, enough.

🌟 What’s life like on the other side?: Oh sis, lean in, this is good. When you break the cycle of overthinking every big and little thing, you experience presence. Get this. When you’re present, your mind is at peace (and so is your body!). You get to enjoy the people in front of you and let your heart fill with gratitude and let laughter fill the room because you are here, in this moment, not missing out on the little things that are actually the big things. Like that look from your husband that filled your whole heart with love for him again.

Or that thing your kid told you about and you listened with care and responded intentionally, reaffirming you are their safe place.

It’s this: Because you’re not overthinking, you’re trusting. That you can handle your emotions with compassion and that God speaks clearly to you and His mystery isn’t meant to be scary – it’s meant to free your mind of worry.

When there’s space in your mind, there’s space in your heart for the things you want to matter most.

🌟 Are you a Christian woman who wants to be let go of striving for what you can't control and live in true surrender and freedom? My community is for you.

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